Updated: Aug 30, 2019
Laura Ingalls Wilder once said, "Home is the nicest word there is". It's true...of all the nice things to say to someone, "home" is such a nice and gentle word. I remember about 10 years ago when our family took a trip to Cancun, it was the first time we had ever been out of the country as a family. I was nervous, I have to admit. As much as it was meant to be a vacation, I just remember always being on edge and worrying so much about something happening. All that aside, good times were had and memories were made. But one specific memory that will forever be engraved in my head was the incident at the Dallas Airport coming home from Mexico. At the time it wasn't necessary to have a passport, but due to my first name being unusual, I opted to getting one before the trip as well one for each of the kids. Bill chose to use his driver's license. When it was our turn to be checked in, I don't think I had ever felt so nervous. Off in the distance there was a person being escorted to a "room" by security and here there we were being analyzed head to toe, person by person, by some lady that gets to determine our "passage" through...This was no normal ID check to buy a bottle of Fireball, this was an INTENSE I hope my eyes are brown like the paper says and not a hazel day ID check. Finally, after reviewing Bill's license and stamping all our passports, she looked me straight in the eye, and to this day I still get teary eyed remembering it, and says, "Welcome Home"...and smiles. What an amazing feeling. This lady didn't know me from Adam and God knows we're not from Texas, but America is our Home. This land is your land, this land is my land...and I couldn't have been more happier to be anywhere else then back in the U.S of A...
I'm not exactly sure how old I was when being home, in our house, sounded more fun then going out. I don't honestly feel Bill and I are OLD per say, but our kids like to remind us that our actions are "old", mainly because we don't really like to go out. I'm not sure if it's because going out required more money for a family of 5 than just for us 2 so we simply stayed home or if it's because going out became more work than fun. In our world, we simply have all the necessities to a great night out, right here at home. If we want to drink, we have or can get all the alcohol needed. If it's friends and drinking, we can do that here and HEAR them instead of talking over some music band or family of screaming kids. If it's a movie, well, we all know you can just about watch any movie out there, even new releases, on our ginormous televisions and incredible sound systems. The best part to all that is pausing it when you have to go pee! We can even have our own snacks for cheaper and eat in BED IF WE WANT! My point is, most of us have all these wonderful amenities in our house. I also believe that some people are simply bored at home. They feel home is a chore. Being there means you have to clean something or do some laundry or vacuum. And for them, home is not a pleasant word. I'm sad for them. Home, especially for me, is peaceful, well, until someone has a bad day lol. But, it's the place where your bad day is calmed. Of course there will always be SOMETHING to do around the house, but it's never more than what you want it to be. I know I'm OCD and I love my house to be orderly, but that's part of "my peaceful feeling".
I love thinking that each one of our rooms has a personality. Of course I have little things in each room that contribute to its "feel". I like to be able to walk in one room and feel "girly" like in my office, or in our family room where the blankets on the couch and the fireplace give me this comfy cozy feel. I love that the bedroom with it's dim lights is relaxing yet romantic, minus the carpet that I'm still waiting to get! And the kitchen feels inviting to sit and talk and want something that smells homemade and is healthy (like Banana Bread!) I'm still working on the healthy part! And yes, even our walk in closet has decor to give us the feeling of a separate space yet not a cave. And don't forget about the outdoor space, my favorite of all. Sitting out there, breathing the fresh air, smelling cut grass or wild honeysuckle when the humidity is non-existent, is incredible. And yes, I have it decorated as a little extension of our house. All those feelings you get going from one room to the next all adds to the wonderful feeling of home.
Although the house is appealing to our eye, the most important element is the people. It's amazing, when one person leaves, how your home can feel so empty. I remember the feeling our home had when our son, the oldest, left for the Air Force. He was the first to go and it was the deepest pain I'd ever felt. Our home felt empty and void and cold. His room looked lonely, lifeless. Energy makes up a home. We had so much energy and although he is just one person, the energy had changed. It took me a very long time to get this energy back or maybe I should say, CREATE a new energy. I learned keeping his bedroom door open allowed energy in and out. By the time our youngest left for the Navy, I made sure to keep her door open and had adapted to the new calmer energy to the house. I find it amusing to feel the energy change when everyone comes home. I imagine if you sit outside by the street, you would actually see the house shake and vibrate like an electric guitar plugged into a amp set on its highest level! Then when they leave, someone has unplugged the amp.
I've had friends and family come to my house and on occasion, someone says to me, "your house feels like home". I'm not sure what element makes it feel like home to them, but for me, that is one of the greatest compliments I could ever receive because Home Is The Nicest Word There Is...
"...She knew she loved him when "home" went from being a place to being a person..." E. Levental